Maximus Leo

On Coming Out to the Family

I crossed another mile stone lately! I thought I was going to be slaughtered and rejected and ridiculed BUT I got none of this. Phew!

I was in KL two weekends ago and came out to my Brother and Sister in law who was so pregnant. Both of them were very cool about it (they have two gay best friends). In fact my sister in law was so happy for me that I nearly chocked. It was really great to see unconditional support from my brother and sister in law. I finally somehow clicked to them and it was a very satisfied experience.

Then after KL, I flew down to Auckland (NZ) - another 10 hours of flight on coach. Thankfully the flight wasn't full and I managed to secure all three seats to myself. Feeling rather blissful and blessed! My boyfriend flew down earlier for work and we have arranged to meet up down under for a couple of days. (My colleagues at work couldn't believe that I was flying down to NZ for 5 days only). I explained to them that I need some time off and wanted to spend time with the family which I did. So arrived on Monday afternoon, got picked up by my youngest brother. My sister joined us later at a Dim Sum restaurant. After some catching up and the apparent lack of enthusiasm of female relationships, my sister made a passing remark that she hopes that I wasn't going with a guy. I paused and processed the information and blirted out that I am actually seeing a guy and not a girl. Wow! My sister flipped and she couldn't believe what I told her. I then turned to my brother and he was apparently shocked. After a couple of seconds of silence, I told them that nothing has changed personally for me. THe difference is now that I have embraced and accepted myself. I finally can accept myself as a confident gay guy! My brother finally got it but my sister went through a process of analysing the whole situation till she could not sleep for the night.

Eventually my boyfriend and I meet up with my younger brother and my sister in law for dinner at this cozy little bar selling muscles and french fries to die off. These guys hit on pretty well and I was pleased that they gotten along fine. As for my sister, I introduced my boyfriend to her the next day. I guess she finally accepted me and she now knows what I had to do go through to get here today.

I am so blessed for the support my siblings and my sister in laws have given to me. I can't ask for more. Now - I have to come up to my mom which is going to be really difficult. I am praying to GOD on a daily basis to give me the strength and courage to tell the truth. I want to move my relationship to the next level of commitment - ie living together. I need this arrangement to ensure our relationship is anchored to something solid - 100% commitment to make this relationship work. I am here for the long haul!

posted by Maximus Leo @ 12:36 AM